Even just keeping a written log may be helpful as well. If you are able to document the behaviors perhaps it would help. I worked with someone very similar recently. She called the agency and said I hurt her when I put her coat on the wrong way and that even though she screamed at me to stop I tried to force her arm into the coat. It was an outright lie. I was fortunate in that the agency already knew this woman was very troubled. Very soon afterward I got another job with twice the hours and very nice people. Good luck!
Marie, I had a patient that went through 20 aides in 6 months because of these types of behaviors. This particular patient developed a reputation so that no one would take care of her. She was very wealthy, so the organization kept raising the amount they would pay the aides. The money was not worth it, because she continued to have frequent staff turnover until she passed away.
Diane Carbo RN
Rating
Would It Be Wise To Film Behavior by: Lee
I'm not sure I completely understand what Gertrude is saying. I sense that she is worried about unfounded accusations by the person she is caring for to someone in charge in some way.
Example: Complaints to a placement agency
Would it be appropriate to film her behavior when the caregiver is trying to do her job. Keeping this film on file will show what is really happening.
Also would it be appropriate to discuss the situation with the husband, wife, children or person who has power of attorney.
Does this individual need two caregivers?
These are just some thoughts I have.
As a paid live in caregiver it is not possible to film the behavior of a client without their consent. The live in caregiver may be providing all the care necessary. The behaviors and accusations of her client may warrant 2 care givers at all times, but her physical needs may not.
For many families there is also the financial aspect of 2 caregivers.
A paid live in caregiver is at the mercy of the family and her client. It is important that the paid caregiver maintain open and ongoing communications with the family of her client.
Over time, the family will come to realize the behaviors. The family may already be aware of her behaviors and that is why she is being provided care by a paid caregiver.
A narcissistic client usually goes through many paid caregivers in a short period of time. Care givers will week employment elsewhere instead of putting their license or reputation on the line for an unstable or narcissistic individual.
